DARE TO PURSUE YOUR DREAMS
The most popular episode in my podcast show is an interview of a young woman who changed her life from one of abuse to a happy one. The show is Expanding Horizons – Building Confidence on iTunes and the episode is “Take Charge of Your Life.”
Although more people than ever begin to think about their futures just before a new year beings, it seems like an appropriate topic for this post. First we look back at what we accomplished during the past and then think about the upcoming year. For some it is just a few resolutions. For others we ask ourselves, “Is this all there is to life?” How can we have more control over our own lives? Wouldn’t that bring us more happiness?
That idea is appealing but also, in some ways, scary. It forces us to look at ourselves and see who we really are. We ask ourselves if we can truly stand on our own and be independent.
My father was an independent, self-made man and he taught us kids to be independent. We fixed our own lunches, walked to and from school, and in some cases made our own decisions. When it got time to go to college, I decided not to go because that would mean continuing to live in my parents’ house. Yet I couldn’t support myself, so I got married. It took a long time to get that degree.
WHAT DOES TAKING CHARGE MEAN?
It helps to know in advance some of the things that are behind taking charge of your life. What does it mean to you to take charge and be yourself? It doesn’t matter what stage of life you are in right now, if you are thinking of making life changes, you need to have a vision. Where do you want to be 3 to 5 years from now? You decide how soon you need to make changes and go from there. Take time to think it through.
Taking time to think about ourselves and our future is a challenge for many of us. We may have school work, a job, a relationship, and other responsibilities. Taking time for yourself may mean getting up an hour earlier than usual or cancelling some social time. If you don’t stop to dream and think about your future, though, you may not have a clear vision of what you want your future to be like. Chances are you’ll make mistakes while you are trying to discover just what you want when you say you want to be yourself.
WHO’S ON YOUR SIDE?
Here is something else to think about. Who’s on your side? Who can you count on to encourage you as you envision and then act on becoming the person you want to be? That may be your mom and dad, your best friend, your school counselor, your kids, or your spouse. It’s hard to go it alone, believe me. I’ve been there. It may be wise to hire a coach or mentor for a while until you get a firm grip on where your life is going. As the saying goes, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.”
So here’s a starter question: Where do you want to be 5 years from now? More on this topic later.