ALONE BUT NOT LONELY
Whether you are alone by chance or by choice, you have the right to be happy. Happiness is a state of mind and the one thing you have complete control over is your mind. Yes, you can decide to be happy. Stand in front of a mirror. Look yourself in the eyes and say, “I am lovable; I am happy.” Smile. You will feel foolish the first time you try it. I did, but it can make a big difference in your disposition.
Remember the story that everyone has a sign hung around their neck, “IALAC.” You guessed it, “I am loveable and capable.” Wear your sign proudly. It is okay to love yourself; in fact, to love others, you must love yourself first. That is different from being “in love” with yourself. When you love yourself you have a healthy respect for who you are. When you are “in love” with yourself, you are selfish and have a “me first” attitude. If you love yourself, you are more likely to have a positive attitude towards others and less likely to compare yourself to them. You can cultivate a healthy love and respect for yourself without taking anything away from others.
CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY
Whether you are alone by chance or by choice, you have the right to be happy! Make up your mind to be happy, especially on Valentine’s Day. Envision a day when you can do anything you want to do … go to an amusement park, see a movie, go fishing, read a good book, work on a project you’ve been trying to find time to do? Please yourself. What do you like to eat? I don’t like going to restaurants alone. When I do I make up my mind in advance that it’s okay to be alone. People may look at you and wonder – or even flirt. I try not to bury my head in a book. I want to be observant of other people like other customers and those waiting on tables, carrying trays, trying to please the customers.
LOVE THE ONE YOU’RE WITH
Genuinely happy people are the people who are able to find contentment and satisfaction without the help of others. They do not depend on other people nor live by other people’s expectations. They are living and loving life no matter what hardships and burdens come their way.
Take a deep breathe and decide now to be happy. There are millions of single people in the world who like being single.
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