What’s in Your Future?
How often do you sit and think about your future–say five or ten years ahead? For most of us, it’s rarely. Maybe at the beginning of the year when you think of New Year’s resolutions, but then? Most of us are busy dealing with daily challenges and opportunities and we seldom spend time thinking and deciding what we want our future to be like. Many of us have given up on the idea of having any influence over our future. We believe that destiny will dictate. Thinking about what we want in the future, however, will allow us to make better decisions that lead to greater happiness.
That is not to say that we must CONTROL all the events in our lives. We just need to pick a point in the future and set our gyroscopes on it. Then we do the best we can to make decisions that lead in the direction we’ve chosen. This is not a linear process, but a dynamic leaping forward and sometimes looping back to see how far we have already come and appreciate the improvements we’ve made, the good times we have had, and maybe evaluate some things to see if we could have done better.
Often we find serendipities along the way. For example, when I was on the set of the movie, “A Month of Sundays,” which was filming at Union Station in Los Angeles, I picked up a voice message on my cell phone during one of the breaks. Someone wanted to buy a couple of copies of our book, 101 Ways to Improve Your Communication Skills Instantly. We followed up and the caller bought several books and audio-tape sets. In a later conversation with the gentleman, I asked how he’d heard about the book. “Jo, you won’t believe it,” he said. He related how he had found a satchel, “like a briefcase,” in the road. In the briefcase were several different books, but no identification of the owner. He took the satchel home and looked at the books. 101 Ways to Improve Your Communication Skills Instantly caught his attention and he read it. Inside he found our telephone number and called. “I’m an immigrant,” he explained, “and I like your book. I can really use it.” Out of nowhere, a stranger found our book and was influenced by it. I was not trying to sell books; I was busy doing other things. Out of nowhere, things happen to move you toward your destination. If you know where you’re going, you will recognize these “coincidences,” be grateful, and take full advantage of them.
The Rest of the Story
Now if you get that movie, A Month of Sundays, and look real close during the scene at the counter in Union Station, I’m in a multicolored blouse walking by in the background. I am what is known as “on background.” Yes, I got paid, but working in movies was not in my future vision. I have a friend who had a friend who did casting work in the Los Angeles area. I had lots of time that day to think about my future.