Some time ago I read an article in the “Beverly Hills Chronicle” about a movement to stop gossip. What an incredible idea! About the same time, the “Los Angeles Times” ran an article titled “Anti-Gossip Drive Goes from Whisper to Roar.” The premise is that if we stop cutting each other down, saying mean things, and gossiping, we will develop into a more civil society. Rabbi Chaim Feld of University Heights, Ohio, and several associates hope his message that “words can heal” will become a national mantra. Endorsers include Tom Cruise, Goldie Hawn, and Sen. John McCain (R-Ariz.), according to the article. Rabbi Feld has taught classes on the value of ethical speech and mutual respect. Think what such a class could do for our politicians! The Rabbi also coauthored a book, “The Words Can Heal Handbook: How Changing Your Words Can Transform Your Life and the Lives of Others.”
In our book, 101 Ways to Improve Your Communication Skills Instantly, 4th Edition,” we advise, “Avoid words that hurt.” If a situation must be corrected, phrase your criticism to include something positive along with specific suggestions for improvement. Don’t get personal. Address the behavior or attitude of a person. Do not attack their worth as a person. Avoid embarrassing other people. A measure of one’s stature is consideration for others. You’ll be hearing more about Rabbi Feld’s campaign. Why not join in?
